What does it actually take to put someone else first? Not just feel like it — actually do it? In this episode of After Sunday, Pastor John and Andrew unpack Sunday's message from Romans 12:9–13 and Philippians 2:1–4. The sermon landed on one word that most people skip right past in that passage — preferring — and built an entire case for why genuine, outward-turned love is not something you manufacture by trying harder. It is something only God's grace can produce. If you have ever wondered why the church sometimes feels just as self-focused as everywhere else, this conversation is worth your time.